Tip of the day... HAVE FUN!
One way to really get to know and connect with your spouce is to have fun with them. I personally think that having fun with Kyle makes me appreciate him more. When you are having fun together you are relaxed and able to talk and joke together, just like you did while dating! Things Kyle and I love to do for fun is to excersize together, we seriously have the best talks when we go running. So think of something you and your spouce both love to do and DO IT TOGETHER!
I found this blog a while ago and it has given me SO many super cute ideas for dates and making marriage fun. The girl who started it is young and in school and is doing things to keep her marriage fun while so busy with other things. Check it out! One of my favorite ideas is the date book... I gave it to Kyle for Christmas last year!
(http://loveactually-blog.blogspot.com/)
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
grumpy days
So the last two days I have not done the LOVE DARE... shame on me. So I'm picking up where I left off today. In my lapse I noticed some things; first that I was thinking more about myself in that time, and two that because of my selfish attitude we didn't get along that well. This is not to say that we argued or were bickering the whole time, it just wasn't "there" ... do you know what I mean?
I just started a new job and by the time I get home I am mentally and physically tired. I have noticed that it is hard for me to be patient and kind when I get that way, no bueno for marriage! I was stuck on thinking about how tired I was and how I wanted the week to be over. But guess what, hubby has to go to work and he has aching feet and he wants the weekend to come! I guess what I'm saying is that I need to be more careful about what kind of a mood I am in when he gets home. He doesn't want to be greated by the ugly monster, he wants the girl he can have fun and relax with.
I am in a much better mood today and I bet we will have a super good night because of it. The saying is true you know, 'if mamma aint happy, no one is!'. I'm not a mom, but I'm pretty sure this has to do a lot with women in general. So my tip for the day is BE HAPPY ladies!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
I just started a new job and by the time I get home I am mentally and physically tired. I have noticed that it is hard for me to be patient and kind when I get that way, no bueno for marriage! I was stuck on thinking about how tired I was and how I wanted the week to be over. But guess what, hubby has to go to work and he has aching feet and he wants the weekend to come! I guess what I'm saying is that I need to be more careful about what kind of a mood I am in when he gets home. He doesn't want to be greated by the ugly monster, he wants the girl he can have fun and relax with.
I am in a much better mood today and I bet we will have a super good night because of it. The saying is true you know, 'if mamma aint happy, no one is!'. I'm not a mom, but I'm pretty sure this has to do a lot with women in general. So my tip for the day is BE HAPPY ladies!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
Monday, June 14, 2010
Day 3 Love is selfless
Today the dare was to buy something for your spouse. The purpose is to show that you are invested in them and that you are willing to be selfless. This one I had to change a little bit because we are poor college students and have a tight budget. So I decided to give him a card, I wrote a lovey dovey note in it and he LOVED it! SCORE!
I have been more excited to be around him and more loving to him since I started this. I know it has only been three days, but I'm loving it!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
I have been more excited to be around him and more loving to him since I started this. I know it has only been three days, but I'm loving it!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Day 1
Love is patient.
Yesterday was day one of the love dare. The dare for the day was to be patient, anyone who knows me well knows that I am not very patient. I did really well though. A specific part of the dare was to not say one negative thing to your spouce. Lately I feel like I have been quite naggy and so that was a little harder, but I DID IT! I did really well and I feel like he was happier, we had fun and laughed the whole night together. Interesting how just ME changing a little helped us both.
Today's dare is to continue to be patient and to do something unexpected and that shows you care for your spouce. I couldn't think of anything big to do so I plan on doing lot's of small things for him today. Like making him lunch and bringing it to him, and hopefully more opportunities arise for me to do more than that.
It has been so far!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
Yesterday was day one of the love dare. The dare for the day was to be patient, anyone who knows me well knows that I am not very patient. I did really well though. A specific part of the dare was to not say one negative thing to your spouce. Lately I feel like I have been quite naggy and so that was a little harder, but I DID IT! I did really well and I feel like he was happier, we had fun and laughed the whole night together. Interesting how just ME changing a little helped us both.
Today's dare is to continue to be patient and to do something unexpected and that shows you care for your spouce. I couldn't think of anything big to do so I plan on doing lot's of small things for him today. Like making him lunch and bringing it to him, and hopefully more opportunities arise for me to do more than that.
It has been so far!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
Saturday, June 12, 2010
The Love dare
A while ago I watched a great movie called "Fireproof". It is about a couple who's marriage is falling apart, the man's father gives him a book called the love dare and asks him to please do the dare before considering divorce. The man does the dare and by the end learns to be a selfless spouce. It really made evaluate myself and my marriage and I suggest that everyone sees the movie! I found out later that bookstores actually sell THE LOVE DARE!!!! I'm SO excited about it, because I'm going to try it! I will be posting my experiences and findings at least once a week while I'm trying it out.
If you would like more info about the book or the movie go to this website
http://thelovedarebook.com/
-Here's to a happy marriage!
Marriage
I am starting this blog to motivate myself to improve my marriage and also to celebrate the great times.
Let's face it... marriage is HARD! Everyone tells you before you get married that the first few years are the worst and that it gets better after that. Yes at times I have felt that and at other times I feel like everyone is crazy! Marriage is what YOU make of it, it does take two to tango but I feel that if you put a good effort into making it what you want, you will have a positive ending.
I don't know about you, but sometimes I really think that my husband is THE BEST man alive. Other times I feel like I don't even know him. In the good times it is so easy for me to show so much love and compassion for him, and to be able to become selfless in marriage. In bad times I tend to think more of myself and what I'm getting out of things. In this BLOG I plan on laying it all out there and being honest with myself and readers in hopes to ultimately make my marriage better. I will be posting ideas on how to improve your marriage and PLEASE leave comments with your ideas.
Well here it goes, wish me luck!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
Let's face it... marriage is HARD! Everyone tells you before you get married that the first few years are the worst and that it gets better after that. Yes at times I have felt that and at other times I feel like everyone is crazy! Marriage is what YOU make of it, it does take two to tango but I feel that if you put a good effort into making it what you want, you will have a positive ending.
I don't know about you, but sometimes I really think that my husband is THE BEST man alive. Other times I feel like I don't even know him. In the good times it is so easy for me to show so much love and compassion for him, and to be able to become selfless in marriage. In bad times I tend to think more of myself and what I'm getting out of things. In this BLOG I plan on laying it all out there and being honest with myself and readers in hopes to ultimately make my marriage better. I will be posting ideas on how to improve your marriage and PLEASE leave comments with your ideas.
Well here it goes, wish me luck!
-Here's to a happy marriage!
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